I grew up in the county of Worcestershire, England. Situated south of Birmingham, Worcestershire is a pretty county of undulating hills and farmland. Wandering down narrow lanes you easily find hidden villages of timbered cottages with thick thatch. Ancient churches and abbeys lie scattered across the county while an impressive cathedral overlooks the banks of the River Severn.

It is a picturesque county but my overwhelming memories are much more down to earth. As a child I remember spending time in other people’s gardens. My parents came to gardening late in their lives but we lived in a small town where gardeners, and their gardens, thrived.

Memories of walking down red-bricked paths to warm greenhouses fragrant with loam and humus, brimming with beefy tomatoes are surprisingly close. In my mind’s eye I see neat rows of onions, standing tall like soldiers, while radishes poke their peppery red jackets above the earth.

I remember a frail elderly couple, who had no children, and their pocket-sized scrap of land filled with fruit trees and bushes. Nurtured and fed over the years those trees reached summer’s end eager to lighten their ripened load.

And then there were friends who crowded their borders with flowers of every colour and variety that released sweet perfume as dusk fell. Heavenly roses, night-scented stock and lavender bushes, breaching the path, left their herby fragrance clinging to your clothes. I love gardens.

I always wanted to cultivate one, but up until now there hasn’t really been the opportunity. Living on the edge of Ulaanbaatar we have a patch of ground on which we could do something but, so far, there hasn’t been time. This summer we’ve hardly cut the grass let alone thought about planting a tree.

Bemoaning this loss, I told God I didn’t think it was fair. (You’d have thought I’d have learned by now that life isn’t always fair.) Nevertheless, in my gloom God extended His grace as the faces of friends, unbidden, started coming to my mind. A long-term gossip, who now speaks words of encouragement, has become an inspiration to many. Another, rescued from dark years of alcoholism, is helping others find freedom.

Nara, shy and retiring, with shutters like leaves that fold inwards when she feels threatened, has taken a woman, crushed by abuse, into her home. Undisturbed, Nara works in her shady spot, encouraging this frail one towards God and His healing.

Older friends, mature and strong in faith, travel to restricted areas to share the good news of Jesus. Like a strong oak they nourish young churches and watch Christians, under God’s protection, grow stronger. And Tavan living in a place where beauty is fading and austerity is the order of the day allows her gentle heart and bright spirit to strengthen the lives of those touched by anguish. 

And so the list of friends, whose changing lives are bringing joy and happiness to others, goes on. I sigh. I still dream of cultivating my own English garden — I’d love to plant borders brimming with flowers and fill tiny furrows with seeds but perhaps this dream must wait for another season of my life.  In the meantime I’m content to watch others grow and blossom.

“Are you enjoying autumn?” people ask. I always marvel because as soon as Nadaam, the July sporting festival has passed the Mongolians start talking about autumn. The days may continue as hot as ever but there is a distinct coolness to the mornings and evenings.

Although the warm days speed by the Mongolians take time to revel in each and every one. Those who spent their summers near us let the days meander at their own pace, eating what they have, sleeping when they’re tired and enjoying time with family and friends without too much thought for tomorrow.

Traditionally the Mongolians have not been planners —although for many life is changing. Living for the day has been a part of their psyche and I must admit it’s a quality I find appealing though, in reality, I struggle to live without planning ahead or thinking of the next responsibility. Planning is prudent yet living for today has a biblical ring to it — Jesus instructed his disciples not to worry about tomorrow and to pray for their daily bread.

Our life with God is eternal but it is lived out on this earth one day at a time, receiving His daily provision and gifts. Thinking on God’s instruction my mind runs back to the Old Testament and the Israelites journeying through the wilderness. Every day they experienced God’s faithful provision. However, when the people tried to hoard the manna and quail, even though God had told them not to, it melted or rotted away.

Storing food for tomorrow seems sensible but I wonder what motivated the Israelites. Did they doubt God’s promises? Or imagine a day would come when He would not be present or not supply the nourishment they needed?

Jesus instructed us to pray for our bread daily, to entrust ourselves into His care and receive His abundant provision, daily. I sense this principle holds true for all of God’s gifts. As we make our petitions known to God, He comes and supplies us with all that we need. But such gifts must be received and used up in the present moment because, like the manna in the wilderness, they do not keep overnight.

The cool stream has become the daily washing place. A mother with a broken wedge of soap pummels clothes clean and then lays them on the grass to dry. Toddlers throw stones from the safety of the bankside while woops of delight, amidst much splashing, accompany children immersed in the shady depths. A young boy, baseball cap in hand, scoops a cap-full of water and plonks it on his head. He cracks a huge grin as the water cascades down his head and small body. Laughing, he repeats the process relishing every sweet moment.

Mongolia is changing. Western influences shape city life but I trust that the Mongolians will continue to enjoy the moment as it reminds me that I too need to receive God’s precious grace gifts afresh every morning.

Cement trucks rumble down the road to building sites beyond the trees. Diggers and earth movers block lanes while shirt-less builders lay block and brick, set windows and roof, drill wells and erect fences. The warm months of the summer are a busy time for building and repairs. And yet in the frenzy of activity there comes a point when the work ceases and the Mongols stop to admire their work and rest.

Food is gathered, twigs and wood arranged with care in a circle of stones. The men wash their faces in the cooling river while the women light the fire. Children, carefree and bare, jump and dive in the shallows sending shoals of fish retreating to the shadows beneath a bankside tree. A heron, his orange feet submerged beneath the water, eyes the crowd warily; one false move on their part and he’ll be gone.

After the meal families settle, chatting and playing games, drinking and singing. The evening light mutes the hills and some take blankets and sleep beneath the stars. These days have a rhythm to them, activity and rest; friends and family, in log cabins in the woods or new homes beside the river, all enjoying the outdoors.

I watch but the simplicity of downing tools and relaxing sometimes eludes me. There is unrest in my soul that all the holidays in the world cannot satiate and I’m left feeling that my work is never enough, or perhaps it’s that I think I’m not enough.

God worked and He rested too. He also looked at His work and was satisfied with what He had accomplished. All the work He needed to do had been finished and He saw that it was good.

I believe Jesus calls me to hand all my labours to him and that He promises me rest. He is the Lord of rest. But there are moments when I miss it. Stumbling over my humanness I intuitively find myself doing good works to earn God’s blessing, or meet my own exacting unrealistic standards. It is exhausting as inwardly I never make the grade and, if I’m not vigilant, the cycle of trying to prove myself worthy never ceases.

On the seventh day God rested from his work completely satisfied with what He had done. If Jesus gives meaning to my life then He will enable me to rest. And His rest is different from mine; it is a deep rest which doesn’t bind me as a slave but gives me liberty because I do not rest on my accomplishments but His, and His work is good. He has given me everything necessary for me to say that my work is finished.

Learning to rest in Him I begin honouring His image within me and realise more deeply that I am no longer defined by my job, accomplishments or qualifications. I am defined by Christ. I rest utterly satisfied in what He has done for me. But it is an act of trust which requires that I acknowledge that I am not god of my life, He is.

It’s the season of bell celebrations or school and college graduations. The bell that structured these young adults’ days throughout their education has rung for the last time. At the graduation ceremony there is, of course, the presentation of diplomas and degrees but there’s also the reading of treasured poems and the singing of a special graduation song. It is a joyful day but there’s sadness too as goodbyes are said to beloved teachers and classmates.

Equipped with an education these young adults are ready to launch into life. They have accumulated learning, grown up and are moving on. Pursuing happiness they look for jobs, buy their first cars, seek a partner and have children. This is life; filled with the dreams we all hope will bring happiness to our souls.

But I’ve noticed when we make the goal of our happiness a successful career, a smart apartment or a perfect family then we’re often disappointed. Life just doesn’t live up to our expectations.

Is it possible to be happy? The answer to that question must be yes but often we look for contentment in all the wrong places. Long-term happiness never comes from the external things. For a moment perhaps, they bring a tawdry, jangling pleasure but they can never furnish our soul’s true contentment.

So how do we find true happiness? As Christians we would say it depends on who dwells in the centre of our lives. Rooted and grounded in Christ He is the one at the core of our beings. Walking with Him each day, living our lives for Him and doing the things He asks us to do brings happiness to our souls. Not the jolly sort of cheerfulness that plasters a permanent smile onto our faces but a deep well of joy that even overcomes life’s sorrows because we all experience sadness. We all have times when sorrow enters leaving us crushed and broken. But in maintaining our relationship with God the anguish never withers us.

On the contrary the suffering we experience will cause the roots of our faith to grow deeper into God. Until, even in sorrow, we were recognise an inner joy that confidently knows God is holding us up.

Happiness doesn’t come by us seeking to control our lives —by trying to get that great job, or build the perfect family and accumulate possessions. Contentment comes when we stop pursuing happiness as a goal in itself and start pursuing God first. Then, and only then, will we find happiness present in our lives.

I am thankful for the zeal of our young friends who’ve just graduated. They are eager to experience all that the world has to offer and I pray that they will. But I also find myself asking God to give them the opportunity to hear the truth of the gospel again and meditate on His word; and learn, as I continue to learn, that by delighting ourselves in Him first we will find true contentment for our souls, and realise, even in the darkest of days, that His love is able to overcome all our sadness.

Life in Ulaanbaatar is different to life in the countryside. The city is largely urbanised although many still live in traditional Mongolian gers, or simple houses, on the edges of the city in shanty-like districts. But these ger city dwellers rarely pack up their homes and move. However you only have to travel a little further out of the city, to the area we live in, to see small trucks trundling up and down the road laden with the family ger and its contents.

Traditionally families move sequentially with the seasons. I think most have already moved from their sheltered winter places to their spring locations. Families winter in the same location each year, keeping the hay they gathered the previous autumn in rough barns and their sheep and goats in small chorales. In summer they pitch their tents close to water on lush pastures where their cattle can graze freely. In the autumn they move on again until it’s time to head back to their winter location.

Until recently families had the freedom to pitch their tents wherever they wanted, but the introduction of land ownership in recently years has seen this freedom partially curbed. Yet even when people could literally, plonk their tents anywhere few ever strayed far from their established locations; mostly families moved in a large circle from one location to the next.

It is interesting to observe. They have the freedom to move anywhere but essentially they move to pre-determined spots in a fixed circuit. Watching the nomads’ migratory habits reminds me of God’s guidance. The link may seem tenuous but I see the Mongolian nomads making free-will decisions that appear pre-destined.

I am no theologian but my experience of God’s guidance parallels the nomads moving habits. God gives us the freedom to make choices, to plan and to carry out those plans. But as I reflect on the plans I’ve followed, whether they were consciously submitted to Him or not, they appear to fulfil God’s plan.

It is a mystery — a tension, apparently, between two extremes; and as with all tensions I struggle to hold the truth in balance. Could it be that we are completely free to choose and yet completely in the hands of God? My small mind can’t fathom the depths of this reality — I want it to be one or the other, but it isn’t.

Receiving guidance can be confusing too. There are moments when the way forward is unambiguous and clear but then there are times when I feel as though God has abandoned me and that I walk not knowing where the next step will lead. Only hindsight reveals that His guiding hand never left me.

In praying for guidance I wonder whether I’m asking the wrong question. Perhaps I shouldn’t be trying to get guidance but rather, perhaps I should be seeking to allow God to transform me into the type of person who can receive guidance. To become that person I need to commit my life unconditionally to Him and trust that knowing Him will enable me to make wise decisions.

The Siberian winds blow through our valley chilling us to the bone but bringing with them the promise of warmer weather. Nomadic families are settled in their spring places. Before they move to their next home custom has it that the head of the family, wearing his best clothes, should ride out to find a suitable location. Once the location has been found the elder takes three large stones and places them in a circle to signify where the family will erect their ger. On a good day, when the sky is favourable and the earth soft, the nomads pack up and move to their chosen spot. They follow the signs of the seasons. But we do not follow the signs of the seasons we follow God who created the seasons.

My questions remain unanswered.  But I am learning to stop trying to understand guidance and get to know God better, and to the degree that I know Him I will grow in trusting Him.

Spring is coming. Warmer winds are slowly exposing the autumn grass that lay buried beneath the snow. People say the warmth is a favourable start to the Mongolian New Year. Of course the New Year has already passed (it was a month ago), but friends are still chatting about the significance of this celebration.

Mongolian New Year, or Tsagaan Sar, is a time of new beginnings. Every family member, from the oldest to the youngest, is supposed to be involved. In the lead up to New Year there is lots of gift buying and food preparation. On New Year’s Eve families clean their homes from top to bottom and herders even clean out their livestock barns. That evening families gather for a special meal where they remember the blessings of the past year. They’re also supposed to lay aside all disagreements and repay debts as they renew relationships. At the same time they hope that the coming year will be filled with joy rather than sorrow and that they’ll be better people than they were last year.  

On New Year’s Day families visit their older relatives and friends. When we lived in the countryside we visited most of our friends during the three day celebrations and left each home with stomachs stuffed full of meaty dumplings, roasted mutton and fermented mare’s milk. In Ulaanbaatar the celebrations tend to be more low-key, although many people still wear colourful Mongolian dress and felt hats. And everyone grasps each other’s elbows and kisses one another’s cheeks as they offer the special holiday greetings of “Are you living peacefully?”

But some Christians are wary of the celebrations. We can understand their concerns — Buddhist elements can, and do, overshadow the celebrations making it tricky for Christians to focus on the new beginning that the New Year emphasises. However, perhaps the festival does offer opportunities to speak about the only life that can bring real change to our lives.

Unlike the harmony and self-betterment which people hope for, we are not calling people simply to come and clean up their lives, or work towards been moral or religious. Christianity is not an add-on option or even a system that rearranges our lives to make us better. But it is a new beginning; a complete new beginning from which each one of us must start. It is radical and involves a new birth where, by God’s Spirit, the old is rooted out and a new principle of supernatural life is planted inside us.

With this new consciousness we realise we no longer have to try to be good. Our identity has been changed and, turning from our own efforts to be good, we rejoice in God’s redemption.

The yearnings the Mongolians feel in the core of their beings cast long shadows. Their traditions reflect their desire for goodness; to live lives that are worthy. However these yearnings are not just confined to the Mongolians. There are parallels in every culture throughout world. They exist in every person, a desire for goodness that sends humans searching for true cleanness and acceptance.

And we have the answer. God, through His Son, has gifted us with new life, and He’s also given us the opportunity to pass this really good news on. We can’t make anyone a Christian, that’s God’s work. But we can give people opportunity to hear and as they hear we trust they will listen, think deeply and receive God’s new life.

Day-time temperatures are heading towards zero degrees Celsius, although the hillside beside our home is still bare — the rocks are grey and the heather dull and wiry. To the natural eye there is no sign of growth but although we cannot see beneath the surface we are certain that the heather’s roots are growing. And so we pray, “Lord let us see with your eyes and speak with your words.”

We had a plan. God had given us a sense of what we should we do, where we should be working and with whom. If you’d have asked us we’d have said we were relying on the Lord to fulfil His plan but in our mind’s eye we had some ideas ourselves on how we were going to reach the goals we had set.

And then last summer my health started deteriorating. I’d been struggling with niggling things, which the doctors could neither fully identify nor cure, for the last couple of years but last year these symptoms seemed to escalate to the point where I was getting weaker and thinner and couldn’t think clearly. At the time it was alarming but thankfully a consultant in Beijing thought it might be ceoliac disease and tested me. The results came back positive.

It was a relief to have an answer and to know that I wasn’t going mad just yet. I merrily embarked on a gluten-free diet which immediately dealt with some of my symptoms although I had no idea how restrictive such a diet would be.

After returning from Thailand we cleared the kitchen of gluten flours and sauces and before I knew it I was sick again. Realising how sensitive I was to gluten products I began asking God what was going on. “Hadn’t He called us to live and work in Mongolia? Didn’t He know how hard it is to visit Mongolian families and not eat their food? Would they understand if I turned up with my own box of food?” And so the questions went on.

It felt awkward and strange. We were checking the ingredient labels on every product in the supermarket. I was drawing attention to myself and, not wanting to get sick again, I was becoming self-absorbed. This illness felt like it was curbing my ministry.

Then a thought quietly entered my mind; is this illness a way for me to get to know God better? Can I draw closer to Him in a way that I’ve never done before? If so then I do not want to waste this opportunity to grow.

But how do I glorify God in the restrictions?

I asked myself whether I was willing to lay my desire for full-health at Jesus’ feet and even whether I was willing to surrender my perceived ideas about ministry for the sake of knowing Christ better. I easily answered yes but in reality I’ve had to wrestle to truly obey and follow.

Paul tells the Romans that God works all together for good to those who love Him. I take comfort from that verse.

In centring my life on Jesus I find peace and realise that I obey God because of who He is and not for my own sake. In the dimness of my understanding I seek Him and understand a little more of His love and care; and by His grace something is growing stronger on the inside of me as I realise that He is sovereign in all situations.

God can and will bring glory to Himself but what does He require of me? I must maintain my love for Him, keeping my eye fixed on Him even when I think my limitations curb my ministry. I must not be taken up with myself, or even worship God thinking that I will get something out of it, but rather trust God because He is God: recognising that He is the one with the plan and I am the one who needs to follow.

Faces glow with wonder as children wait for the great day to arrive. With mounting excitement they watch presents pile up beneath the decorated tree. We sing carols; eat too many mince pies and party too hard. In the crush of late night shopping we buy gifts and, scratching our heads, wonder what we can give great Uncle Wilf. Fewer of us write Christmas greetings to friends and family but we still meet. “It’s worth it,” we say, dreaming of cold snowy days when we can peacefully snuggle up beside the crackling fire, sipping hot apple cider, oblivious to the mayhem such weather causes outside.

With the right elements we can create a pleasant ambience which helps generate a sense of well-being. The Danes call this sense of well-being ‘hygge’. Having recently visited a friend in Copenhagen we can understand why the Danes seek to create such cosy atmospheres. The weekend we were there the skies were wild and indiscriminately pelted us with weapons of mass-destruction like rain. The Danes wore thick waterproofs to defend themselves against the elements. We did not and found ourselves soaked to the skin.

Back in our friend’s apartment we changed our sodden clothes for thick woolly jumpers. We lit candles and, cradling mugs of steaming coffee, munched delicious pastries. The rain drummed relentlessly against the window but in the warmth of her lounge we were secure. That afternoon our souls were comforted but the true sense of our comfort lay beyond the mere cosiness of her home.

Our desire for comfort, peace and joy in the innermost parts of our beings is natural. And yet we live in a world where it’s hard to shut the door on suffering. But the Bible tells us we can know joy in the midst of agony. It tells us that there is a joy and comfort that the world’s troubles cannot extinguish — a deep joy that is impervious to the deluge of grief.

Over the years I’ve wondered whether this is true. Especially since I used to believe that by loving and serving God He would protect me from suffering, and He didn’t. Non-Christians and Christians alike all face suffering. Our bodies get sick, relationships break down and loved ones die but the Bible says that God can work all things together for good to those who know and love Him.

So when life works together for my good it is because of His grace. If I am well it’s because of His goodness and if someone loves me it’s because of His kindness.

I am sure God hates pain and suffering and I’m equally sure He understands our pain. After all He came into the world and experienced it first-hand. But allowing God to take our pain and work it for our good means that we have to develop new habits. I’m learning that I must stop complaining, stop trying to blot out misery and run from its agonies. Instead I need to cultivate a thankful heart that sees all as His grace.

God does not promise us success or happiness; He promises us new life. He doesn’t always change our circumstances because He wants to change our inner being to be like His Son. His purposes are fixed. He desires an intimate relationship with us and this is the basis of our joy.

Yes, we long for warmth and Hygge seeks to make our homes nicer and people happier. The family gathers, we eat comforting food and cherish one another, but this cosiness passes. At the time it feels good but at best it is an ephemeral sensation absent of the underlying truth of real joy.

We do not come to Christianity because it is comforting. We come to Christianity because it is true. God doesn’t take us away from the hardness of life but through His strength He teaches us how to deal with life’s sorrows. Sometimes we suffer deeply and only He can truly comfort the hurts of our hearts.

At Christmas we remember Jesus’ birth on earth. We picture Him born in a manger, on a bed of straw, surrounded by those who loved Him. But He did not come to evoke misty-eyed affection. He came to overcome the sin of this world: to bring truth, hope and rock-solid comfort to our lives. And this truth fills us with wonder.

Mongolians are extraordinary horsemen. And perhaps it’s always been so. Certainly horsemanship has featured heavily in Mongolia’s history and their world. In the thirteenth century the ground shuddered to the sound of the Mongol hordes, warriors and their warhorses, thundering north, south, east and west as they conquered tribes and nations to establish their long since diminished empire.

Riding trusted horses they endured hardships, fearing neither hunger nor thirst, heat nor the bitter Siberian cold. They galloped for days, weeks, months, up and down mountains and across the open steppe covering all and any terrain with reckless confidence. Standing in their stirrups they screamed like crazed wolves, ready for the kill, until they melted the hearts of all those who encountered them.

Today many countryside Mongolians, whether they’re racing across the open plains or lassoing an unbroken stallion, possess the same finely honed horsemanship as their ancestors. However, city dwellers are changing and prefer to keep their horsepower harnessed beneath the bonnets of their cars. And yet it is with the same reckless abandon that they drive their metallic horses through the streets of Ulaanbaatar.

Twenty years ago two cars was a traffic jam but today the city streets are choked with a mass of metal as cars, buses and trucks all vie for first position. Without a hint of mirror or signal, drivers  manoeuvre in and out of buses lanes. Or drawing their breath in, they slyly wedge themselves into non-existent gaps that force others to stop, before everyone, (well almost everyone,) comes to a standstill at stop signs. Toes to the metal young drivers rev the engines of their hand-painted saloons to fever pitch. As they screech  away from the lights acrid rubber smoulders on the tarmac while plumes of black smoke escape piston-shot engines.

Driving in Mongolia is like a competition to overtake the rest and be first. Perhaps, it’s natural, revealing man’s heart. But without the constraints of the rules of the road or life’s boundaries would I be the same?  Underneath my sensibilities and the veneer of politeness, in some shape of form, perhaps I’m competing too. Certainly the world subtly whispers that it’s the way things should be. It applauds my desire to be first. It values success and the subsequent power it gives to beat the rest.

Rising in the midst of my craving a desire can gather momentum; I want to push others aside and grab the prize for myself. But the moment I succeed, the moment I grasp it in my hand its glory is disappears. My success is short-lived without any real depth or value to it. And against the backdrop of Jesus’ character, respect for the world’s ways seems pitiable.

God tells us not to be controlled by the things the societies considers critical but rather to follow His way. Life in God is a remarkable reversal of values. He calls us to abandon our wills to Him, and sometimes that involves laying down our strength to serve others and enable them to be first. At such times our competitive world considers this feebleness.  Yet going against the flow, preferring others above ourselves, we lay hold of the true prizes that do not fade: satisfaction here and lasting joy and a deeper understanding of our God.

A few Ulaanbaatar drivers are taming their metallic horses. They strive to run less with the wind and even follow some of the rules of the road.